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Facing Pain & Troubles

Pain can sometimes be so unbearable it can actually disable us. Pain or the threat of a painful situation, can drive us into despair and sometimes drive destructive personal behavior. It is also possible for pain to make us frightened about the future and can cause us to "not care" about ourselves or loved ones.

I believe many people respond to pain or the threat of pain by trying to run away from it. The thought process is, "I need to get away from pain as fast as I can". This is a very normal reaction when people are first faced with pain. Personally, I believe if you don't deal with pain quickly and completely, it doesn't go away and can lead to anxiety and/or depression in the future.

Having lived through many very painful times in my life, I have come to the conclusion to conquer pain you need to "face the pain head on". By "fully embracing pain", you actually move through it more quickly and discover peace on the "other side". I really believe if you "love" or "face the pain directly", you conquer it. This way, the pain can't destroy you or take over your life. If you don't deal with pain, it will never go away completely and will rise up someway, somehow, someday.

NOTE: We offer a short Bible Study "Facing Obstacles, Trials and Failure In Your Life Without God" to help in this area.  (CLICK HERE TO BE TAKEN TO THAT STUDY)

Below are some poems about experiencing pain and how negative or hopeless it can make you feel. I don't think it makes any difference if the pain is "physical or mental", both can very negatively affect us and our loved ones.

(Note: These are my feelings about pain, but may not be yours or that of the professionals you may see for the pain you experience)  


                                                        

                                                        

Pain Train Three

I have my ticket
Special reserved seat
Same seat
Same pain
Familiar journey

The train runs faster this time
Speeding past familiar stops 

The train speeds into
darkness or light
I know not which
In reality, I don't care 

At least I am moving someplace,
going somewhere
Not lying deathly still
with no hope of relief 

Again, I embrace my
special Pain Train
I know it will deliver me on time
to an unknown destination 

I know eventually there
will be lightwhen my stop
screeches into view
This is a comforting thought
Strange, but no less comforting

My comfort comes
from letting go
Embracing my final destination

It is good to be on the
Pain Train again
I know the destination will be
where I should be

Dubrovnik, Croatia.    June 6, 2015


                                                                                                  

                                                

                                                 

Pain: Negative or Positive?

Not feeling much pain today
Don’t know why
Am in pain,
I think.

Don’t feel anything!
No feelings of love
No feelings of hate
No feelings of hope

Feeling neither
pain nor peace
Peace or pain, 
the same to me

I should care
I don’t care
I do care,
I think

Love or hate?
What’s the difference?

I don’t care
Does anyone care?
I don’t 

I am neither in a negative
nor positive mood

Maybe, I would like to
be neutral for a while

Sounds like a
fine position to be
Neither in pain nor in peace
Neither loved nor hated
Neither alive nor dead

But, on second thought

Neutrality would be painful
Too painful just existing

Lord, please give me the
pain of a true heart

10/03/1999 Coal Creek Chapel


                                                       

                                                       

The Pain Train - B

Click clack, click clack
Constant pressure
Constant pain

Click clack, click clack
Out of mind
Out-of-body

Click clack, click clack
No rest
No relief

Click clack, click clack
Peace at night
Peace at death

01/24/98 Seattle at home


                                                                                                                            

                                                               

                                                            

Pain Forgiven

Surrounded by pain
Protected though pain
Pain never retreating

Pain
A beauty unspoken
A beauty pain reveals,
of the inner self

Why pain?
Why live?
Why keep living?

Why?

Because pain is a
gateway to;
self reflection or
self destruction

Pain is a gateway
into a veiled world
Aworld unknown to
those without pain
 

Why Pain?

The reasons are
rarely revealed
Only God knows

To those of us
suffering in pain

We don’t care,
just leave us alone
When pain thrives
  Hope flickers dimly
Desire wanes

Out of pain
  Out of our mind 

Pain
Pain
Pain

So What

07/04/1998 Late at night, 
July 4Th


                                                              

 

                                                            

Never at Peace

I will never be at peace

My mind betrays the failure
to trust His guidance

I have constant unrelenting, 
negative thoughts
Thoughts about
anything and
everything

Thoughts created
by a human mind, 
thus thoughts very
inwardly focused

But I still know
I still know I will have
peace in my heart
and soul someday
Peace at the end
of my journey

God knows the answers
I don’t even know the
question to ask

My thoughts are blurred
by the light of
my own ignorance

03/05/04 Flight Newark to Seattle 


                                                           

                                                           

Pain's 
Message 

There really is a Heaven
Pain is of the earth
of the world
of mortals

Pain cannot escape 
the world's grasp
Human gravity 
too strong

Pain may be a gift 
from God given 
through love

Pain gives us hope
for being peaceful
some day

Relieved of pain 
in our earthly world 

02/28/1998 Sat.afternoon, 
Kahler Glen cabin


The Tunnel

I am in a long tunnel
A tunnel going someplace,
I know not where

Tunnel of life?
Tunnel of darkness?
Tunnel of night?
Tunnel of death

Did I enter in darkness
and am traveling to light?
Or, did I enter in light and
am traveling into darkness?

Perhaps darkness shrouds
both my entry and exit

At least I know at this
moment, it is the tunnel of life
I came out of the womb
and into the light on earth

Darkness and light,
reflect the face
of my journey

I know the tunnel of life
can be long and dark

I have lived days,
of happiness
of darkness
of despair
of hope

and lived days,
of hope
of despair
of darkness
of happiness

Life is a tunnel filled
with peaks and valleys
Positives and negatives
of life will always
surround us

Why?

That is just the way it is
Life will never be
a smooth journey

We journey through the
light and the darkness
of our earthly existence

But how will our life end?

Fading away buried
in a black hole, never
to see light again?

Or do we live again,
to see light someday?

It depends on faith, 
I think

Without faith in
love and light,
darkness will prevail

The tunnel of life can
lead us to light

Love will prevail
at the other end

All we haveto do,
is believe

11/10/1999 Dr's. office in Seattle


                                                                 

 

                                                               

Pain's Song

I can see clearly now
The pain is gone

Hazy lights no more
Lazy days ahead

Joy of relief on the horizon
Dark clouds hovering close

03/22/1998 Sunday