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Cherishing Your Spouse

As if you didn't already know it, God created men and women very differently. A man sometimes needs "Divine Intervention" to better understand his wife's needs, how to support her, how to listen to her and above all, how to make her feel loved and cherished.

In Ephesians 5:25 it says, "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her" Ephesians 5:28 says, "In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself".   

Men tend to "compartmentalize" their lives (work, buddies, family, church, sports, etc.) and frequently struggle grasping what it means to fully love and cherish their wives. Too often, men interact with their wives just as they would with any other individuals in their lives. This interaction can be impersonal/feel impersonal and their wives will sense and feel this. Men need God's wisdom to become more like the man "God intends us to be", and the "husband" described so clearly in Scripture.

The poems below are my attempts to express love for my spouse. We men will vary greatly in our "writing ability", but I think the key is "our attempt" to put our love into words. I believe if we honestly write from the heart, our wives will understand and accept our words of love, support and admiration.

For "individual men", I suggest you try be more proactive in letting your wife know daily how much you love her. It can be a few words or a soft reassuring touch sometime during the day or evening. Try to write her a love letter. As mentioned above, it doesn't have to be a literary work of art, it just has to be from your heart. Of course, "praying for help" is always needed and helpful.

For a "Men's Small Group", this is a topic that can be discussed a little during every meeting. We frequently have good intentions, but in our busy, everyday world we can be easily detracted. Discussing this in your Men's Group or just with another man, provides the opportunity to extend support and encouragement to each other.  

NOTE: We offer a Short Bible Study entitled "Cherishing Your Spouse" on our site.  (CLICK HERE TO BE TAKEN TO THAT STUDY) 


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My Wife

 A gift from above

Cherished by God

and given to me;

To  share life
To share love
To share peace
T
o share God's hopes

 Prayers delivered 
with a soft kiss

Love protected by 
hearts 
tightly flying,
t
hrough Heaven’s 
gate 
on earth

A gate disguised as life

Of life protected
O
f life promised
O
f life enduring forever

 With an angel by my side,
t
he journey is easier

  Through life’s challenges
Through life's rewards

   Through life’s trials

Heaven sent
God given

 

Forever my soul mate
in a heart’s journey 

To find a home beyond
life’s parade

 My own parade
with God as a 
cheerleader

by my side

Pushing me on
Pulling me forward

Waiting
and wishing
   and dreaming   

Full acceptance,
   a tender touch  

Of an angel’s soft touch
on my heart


 

7/3/98  Late PM


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My Wife Arlene 

 Your smile radiates

Of peace within
Of love for me
Of love for Him

The most beautiful face 
in the world

Eyes loving and intelligent
Lips strong and sensual

Her face radiating beauty within
Her face reflecting the beauty
of her love for me

She is everything to me

   Part of my body
   Part of my soul
   Part of my being

We are inseparable
in life and worlds beyond

We will always be together

We know and understand

We accept and love radiates
 

01/18/1998 -Swedish 
Hospital 8:30am


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Our Love

How do you describe
a love like ours?

Every mountain peak of

exhilarating abandonment
surrounds us with
Heavenly thoughts

How do you describe?
The pure whiteness of our love
The depth of our journey to love

We are love!

We know love
is the answer

We love as if we
have never loved before
Our love is internalized
through Him  

We know love is our strength and our Salvation
We know He is present, blessing our love forever

Our love is between the
three of us and
among the two of us

We love and trust

She trusts me with
life and love

I trust Him in everything

 

080701. Beverly Hills, after
getting our Marriage License


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 My Inspiration


God, the love of my soul
Peggy, the love of my life

Peggy inspires me
God showers me with love

Blessed by God’s work
Inspired by Peggy to live life

She gives me confidence
He gives me peace

She believes in me,
so do I of myself

He has saved me,
in spite of myself

She loves me,
in spite of  myself

  An Angel blesses me 
 

She is my wife

 

02122002 Amtrak, Agoura, CA 
to Seattle, WA


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A Love Letter
to Peggy


I am so much in love
with you today

A new level of
unlimited love for you

An overpowering love
that fulfills and
completes me

It is not easy to
describe the extent
of my love

All I can do is try to
tell you how I feel

I am at peace with
my love for you

I am fulfilled in the depth
of my love for you

I am free to open my
heart totally to you

I feel fully relaxed to love
with all of my heart   

Our love is a special
love above all

A powerful love controlling

our feelings of togetherness

A strong love overpowering

feelings of singleness

A peaceful love reflecting
hearts beating as one

A satisfying love permeates
our individual souls

A forgiving love believing
our love will never fail

A graceful love accepting
His total love for us 

I am so much in love with you

Our love will always grow
Our love will always reach toward the sky

Our love touches the
sky of eternity  


 01/11/01 Coal Creek Chapel


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The Love of 
My Life

You are everything to me

Soft touch of a morning mist
Breezes swaying, softly blowing
Warm sun beams at dawn’s
first light

A world within your arms
Sheltering me from fear
Sheltering me from pain

You brighten my world
You radiate love for me
Your face glows when 
I come home

What words can I use
to let you know the 
depth of my love?

To let you know how 
much you mean to me

Words are not adequate
Only the heart can speak
Only the eyes can reveal
the true meaning of 
my love for you

Light has shown upon me
since you came into my life

The light brightens my life
Brightens my reflection

Brightens our future 
as man and wife

Forever in your
arms of love

9/10/98 For my wife, 
11:45pm


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Chemistry of Love

Between us is a bond
A bond stronger than 
the world imagines

We can only wonder
We can only hope 
to understand
We can only try 
to comprehend

The depth of our 
heart’s forgiveness

Acceptance of this love 
is our only defense

Acceptance is the strongest gratitude we feel

How do we describe our love?

A love indescribable
A love unbelievable

A love only understood by adventurous hearts

1999 Late June


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Our Love

How do you describe
a love like ours?

Every mountain peak of

exhilarating abandonment
surrounds us with
Heavenly thoughts

How do you describe?
The pure whiteness of our love
The depth of our journey to love

We are love!

We know love
is the answer

We love as if we
have never loved before
Our love is internalized
through Him  

We know love is our strength

and our Salvation

We know He is present,

blessing our love forever

Our love is between the
three of us and
among the two of us

We love and trust

She trusts me with
life and love

I trust Him in everything

 

080701. Beverly Hills, after
getting our Marriage License